You have just been diagnosed with an illness that will last your
entire lifetime. You may have many different feelings, such as anger,
resentment, or denial. These feelings are normal and expected because you are
experiencing the loss of what your life was like before you were diagnosed with
You can help yourself adjust by:
Becoming aware of your loss. Although there are
steps you have to start taking immediately to care for this disease, think
about what having this disease means to you. You may feel numb and lost. Try to
identify the things you feel you have lost.
Expressing your grief.
There are many ways to express grief, such as irritability, restlessness, and
being more quiet than usual. You may feel you are not the same person you were
before the loss. You might question the significance and purpose of the loss. And you may need to talk about your loss in religious or spiritual
Adjusting to the loss. Your grief will become less intense
as you fit in and adjust to the changes you need to make because of this
disease. Over time, these new skills and tasks will become part of your daily
Grieving is not a simple process in which you simply adjust to a loss
and then never grieve it again. The loss is always with you and you may repeat
the process, or some steps in the process, over and over again as you live with
this loss. Realizing that you are experiencing a major loss and dealing with
your grief will give you more control over your life and your ability to manage
If you find that you need help in dealing with your feelings, talk
with your doctor about counseling.
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