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Family Communications - Keeping the Love Lines Open

The benefits of being part of a family are far-reaching. Family members are a source of friendship, love, emotional support and acceptance.

However, the needs of family members change constantly. Most changes come with growing older and wiser together.

Honest communication and careful listening can help assure that your family stays in tune, sharing maximum love and support over the years.

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Review Your Family Patterns

Do you feel that you understand each other’s needs? Do family conflicts reach a satisfactory end? Here are three check points:

  1. Is your approach positive, starting with how you feel? For example, “I feel important when you listen to me…”
  2. Are you specific about the issue at hand? If you criticize, are you constructive? For example, “You didn’t make your bed this morning. If you need more time, we can…”
  3. Can you negotiate? Even if you disagree on an issue, can you agree on a compromise? For example, “I don’t agree, but I’ll try for a week because I understand your reasons.”

Are These Problems Familiar?

Outside friends, school or work activities, separation of family members, and just plain fatigue can create problems.

Messages become unclear because it’s easier to blame or bully than to take the time to discuss things. You may hold feelings back because you don’t want to “start something.”

As unresolved problems build, mutual respect can disappear. Finally, there just doesn’t seem to be enough time or energy to pay attention to each other.

Try These Solutions

Here are standard guidelines for healthy communication:

  1. Be honest and share feelings.
  2. Listen and watch so you know when others are needy.
  3. Develop a manner of speech that is open and clear.
  4. Take responsibility for personal thoughts and actions.
  5. Regularly discuss values and beliefs.
  6. Encourage positive values, and act as a role model.

Create Quality Time

Your family may find that it’s a lot easier to be patient with each other when all of you know what’s going on. Some families set aside an hour a week just to talk about individual and group needs.

Some working parents feel that the first five minutes after they get home is critical. Regardless of how tough a day has been, taking the time for an individual greeting and hug says, “I recognize you.”

Tub time, tuck-in time, kitchen time and other short periods can be loving when someone is willing to listen. A bonus is that when you pay attention to smaller things, your children may be encouraged to talk about the serious things.

Family Resources

Family counselors can help when there’s no understanding or mutual effort to make things better. Each family member can learn to listen, talk, fight fair, compromise and cooperate.

Contact Sutter Health EAP

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If you’d like to improve your life in any area or have other issues that hold you back from being your best, let us help you. Sutter EAP has professional licensed and experienced therapists available to serve your needs.

For information or to schedule an appointment call (800) 477-2258 or complete a Service Request Form.

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