Planning for Support After Birth

You’ve likely prepared the nursery, stocked up on diapers and bought things for your new baby — but what about you?

We often want to believe we can do it all, but giving birth takes a physical toll. You’ll likely be tired from lack of sleep and emotional from the rapid changes in hormones. The best way to prepare is to plan ahead. Think about who can help you — and be specific. Talk to friends, family or your partner now about what you might need. 

Write Out Your Plan

Getting your plan on paper can help you organize your thoughts. It can be as simple or as detailed as you like.

Here are some things to consider:

• Can someone assist with grocery shopping, meal prep or childcare for older kids?
• Can you prepare and freeze nutritious meals ahead of time for days you’re too tired to cook? A nourishing soup is a great option to have on hand.
• Do you have a comfortable place to rest that’s easy to access without using stairs?
• Who is available to help during the day versus at night? 

Get Organized With a Shared List

Consider setting up a shared list or online document with friends and family. This can include chores, errands and meal drop-offs. A “meal train” system allows people to sign up for specific days so food and help are spaced out when you need it most. This way, you won’t get overwhelmed with too much help at once, and everyone will know exactly how they can support you.

Remember, asking for help is not a sign of weakness. Your loved ones want to support you — they just need to know how. If you don’t have family nearby, consider local groups or online communities where you can connect with other parents, as well as Sutter’s in-person and virtual consultations and support groups for new parents.