Caring for Someone With Dementia

If you’re caring for someone who’s recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia, please know you’re not alone. We understand how overwhelming it can feel as you adjust to this new chapter and begin navigating changes in memory, behavior and daily routines. The good news is you don’t have to figure it out on your own. We’re here to help you support your loved one in a way that preserves their safety, dignity and quality of life. 

Understanding Dementia and Alzheimer’s

Dementia is a general term used to describe a range of symptoms that affect memory, thinking and behavior. Alzheimer’s disease is the most common form, accounting for 60–80% of dementia cases. While each person’s journey is different, dementia symptoms often progress over time — meaning the level of care your loved one needs will likely increase.

Sutter offers robust neurology services for all forms of dementia, including diagnosis and treatment. At the Ray Dolby Brain Health Center in the Bay Area and the Memory Clinic in Sacramento, our compassionate teams are here to support you and your loved one every step of the way. 

Learn the Stages and Symptoms

Understanding how dementia progresses can help you anticipate what’s ahead and prepare thoughtfully. Knowing the early signs of dementia can help you recognize when to see a doctor. The Alzheimer’s Association outlines three primary stages:

• Early Stage: Your loved one may experience mild memory lapses or confusion but can often function independently.
• Middle Stage: Symptoms become more noticeable — difficulty with daily tasks, changes in behavior and increased memory loss.
• Late Stage: A more advanced decline in cognitive and physical abilities, requiring full-time care and assistance.

Knowing the signs and stages can guide you in tailoring care to your loved one’s evolving needs. 

What You Can Do for Your Loved One

• Establish routines: Try to maintain a consistent schedule for meals, activities and rest. Familiar routines offer comfort and predictability.  
• Communicate with kindness: Clear, calm communication makes a big difference. Use simple words, gentle tones and friendly eye contact. If your loved one becomes confused, try redirecting the conversation instead of correcting them. Nonverbal gestures like a reassuring smile or a soft touch can speak volumes.
• Manage behavioral changes: Agitation, wandering or aggression can be part of dementia’s progression. These behaviors often stem from fear or frustration. Pay attention to potential triggers, create a soothing environment and engage your loved one in activities they enjoy.  
• Create a safe and comfortable environment: Safety at home is essential. Installing grab bars, removing tripping hazards, ensuring good lighting and using door alarms can help prevent accidents and give you peace of mind.  
• Support daily activities and good nutrition: Encourage your loved one to be involved in daily tasks as much as possible. Whether it’s brushing teeth, getting dressed or preparing a meal, promoting independence helps preserve dignity. Offer healthy, easy-to-eat meals and be mindful of any changes in appetite or weight.
• Encourage meaningful moments: Engaging in activities your loved one enjoys can lift spirits and stimulate the brain. Music, art, gentle exercise and even talking about fond memories can be incredibly enriching. Choose activities that align with their interests and abilities.
• Plan ahead for legal and financial needs: It’s important to address legal and financial matters early, while your loved one can still participate in decision-making. Consider setting up powers of attorney, advance directives and exploring long-term care options. Working with an elder law professional can ease the process. 

Taking Care of Yourself

You matter. Caregiving is demanding, and your well-being is just as important as your loved one’s. Make time to rest, stay connected with others and do things that bring you joy. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness — it’s a sign of strength.  

Caring for someone with dementia can be deeply rewarding but also emotionally and physically taxing. You don’t have to do it all alone. Support groups, online resources and professional services can offer guidance, comfort and community. Organizations like the Alzheimer’s Association, the National Institute on Aging and Alzheimers.gov offer a wealth of tools, support and up-to-date information.