Being the parent or guardian of a preteen or teen isn't as scary as it sounds. Most of the time they are struggling to be independent and to fit in at school, at home and with friends. Keep in mind that helping your preteen or teen to become an adult takes time, patience and commitment. There is no such thing as an instant adult!
There are two things to remember: preteens and teens need lots of love, and they need a caring adult to help shape their moral compass and give them support during these difficult transitional years.