Partners and Pregnancy

Even though you won’t experience the physical changes of pregnancy yourself, you’ll face your own mix of feelings and challenges. You may feel excited and joyful, but it’s also normal to feel uncertain or anxious. You might wonder how best to support your partner during pregnancy and labor, how to prepare for parenthood, or how your relationship may change. Financial concerns and questions about your sexual relationship are common, too.

Here are some tips to help you get more involved and feel confident throughout this special time. 

Getting Involved and Preparing Together 

The sooner you start preparing for your baby’s arrival, the more comfortable and confident you’ll feel as the pregnancy progresses. You can begin by helping choose the birth team, like the doctor or midwife, and being part of the decision about where your baby will be born. Attending some prenatal appointments with your partner is another important way to show support and stay connected to the pregnancy journey.

Learning together can make a big difference, too. Taking prenatal classes and exploring books or videos about pregnancy, birth and parenting will help you both feel more prepared for what’s ahead.

It’s also a good idea to start financial planning early. Getting your budget ready now can ease stress later and help you focus on the excitement of becoming parents. 

Communication and Bonding 

Open, honest conversations are key. Talk with your partner about what she’s experiencing and share how you’re feeling. It’s perfectly normal to have both worries and excitement during this time.

Many partners find that bonding with the baby before birth helps deepen their connection. Simple moments like touching your partner’s belly and talking to your baby can create a powerful and meaningful bond that lasts well beyond pregnancy. 

Find Support for Yourself 

Think about the kind of support you might want during labor. Other partners who have been through it can be an invaluable resource. Don’t hesitate to ask questions like:

• What helped you and your partner the most during labor?
• How has life changed since your baby was born?
• What surprised you about becoming a parent? 

Changes in Your Sexual Relationship 

Pregnancy can bring changes to your intimate life. While most physical changes happen to your partner, you might experience “sympathy pains” or emotional adjustments, too.

Here’s what to expect:

• Breasts may become tender, so finding comfortable positions and support is important.
• Early pregnancy symptoms like nausea and fatigue may lower sexual desire.
• The increased blood flow to the pelvic area in the second trimester may make intimacy feel more enjoyable.

Later in pregnancy, your partner’s growing belly might make certain positions uncomfortable. Get creative and explore new ways to express love. 

Hormonal Changes and Intimacy 

• Vaginal lubrication can change. Sometimes it increases, other times it decreases, which might cause discomfort. A water-based lubricant can help.
• Pregnancy increases the risk of vaginal or urinary infections. If either occurs, you may be advised to avoid intercourse or use condoms to protect each other. 

Is Intercourse Safe for Your Baby? 

Generally, sex during pregnancy is safe. The baby is well protected inside the uterus by fluid, muscles and the pelvic bones. Still, if your partner has a history of complications, or if she feels pain, bleeding or if her water has broken, talk to your healthcare provider.

Orgasms cause the uterus to contract rhythmically. While this is usually safe, if there’s a risk of premature labor, your provider might recommend avoiding intercourse. Find other ways to share affection and care during this time. 

Take Care of Each Other 

Adjusting to pregnancy is a big change for both of you. You might find it helpful to join a pregnancy support group or talk with a counselor together.