Friends

Everyone needs friends, and you’ve probably always had at least one. A friend is a person you know well and regard with affection, trust and respect.

As you get older, some of your friendships will start to change, and some may grow deeper. You might also begin to know many more people, although not all of them will be close friends.

Chances are, you’ll also start to spend more time with your friends, and maybe text and talk more. Changes in relationships are natural but not always easy.

Making and keeping friends can be particularly tough if you’re shy or unsure of yourself.

To make new friends:

• Get involved in school and community activities with other people your age.
• Be friendly and helpful to people.
• Talk, listen and get to know people. Ask questions to find out if you have something in common with them.

To keep friends:

• Be supportive.
• Be encouraging.
• Don’t tease or belittle.
• Cooperate.
• Compromise.
• Be considerate.
• Talk openly about disagreements.
• Apologize when you hurt a friend.

Peer Pressure

Peer pressure can play a major role in friendships. If someone is vulnerable to peer pressure, the relationship isn’t balanced.

You have the right and duty to stand up for what you believe is right. Express yourself with your friends. You have the freedom to say “no” if you disagree. If you’re scared of losing a friendship by standing up for what you believe is right, then you’re in an unbalanced friendship.

True friends listen to and respect each other’s opinions. Standing up for yourself may cause tension in a friendship, but it’s OK as long as you have the skills to handle the situation. Remember to communicate your ideas while respecting your friend’s opinion. By mutually supporting each other, whether or not you agree, your friendship will be more stable.

Last reviewed: November 2019